[1] March 13, 2008, the public release date of the ELCA's Draft
Social Statement on Human Sexuality, was not a date I had noted on
my calendar. I confess that I was not paying much attention to
the release of this draft, at least until two weeks ago when I was
asked to be one of a number of folks who responded to it.
[2] That "void" from my life is a bit surprising considering my
life until coming to this call. I served for nearly 14 years
as ELCA churchwide communication director, spanning the years of
1992 - 2006. During those years the issue of the ELCA's
conversations about sexuality and, especially, homosexuality, were
a big part of my calendar and life. I first "lived through"
the release of a possible first draft of a proposed social
statement on human sexuality in 1993. That time is the topic
for another essay, but "lived through" is about the best term I can
think of for those tough days. Then, I helped lead the process
of communicating the ELCA's various attempts at making statements
on sexuality and, especially, homosexuality, culminating in the
work of the ELCA sexuality task force for the 2005 ELCA churchwide
assembly.
[3] However, this "void" is more than a change in call and even
more than being senior pastor of a large ELCA congregation. It
is, more importantly, because the controversial issues surrounding
sexuality in the ELCA are no longer part of my everyday
life. They just are not on the agenda of many of the members
of this congregation.
[4] Trinity Lutheran Church in Lansdale, Pennsylvania is the
largest Lutheran congregation east of the Mississippi River and the
largest "Reconciling in Christ" congregation in North
America. But, before you assume that we are a large, eastern
"liberal" place, I should add that Montgomery County, where
Lansdale is located, is a long time Republican area. I assume
that most of Trinity's members voted for President Bush in
2004.
[5] But, I also believe that most of Trinity's members would not
vote again for President Bush and that most would feel that Bush
has led us in the wrong direction in many areas, including the War
in Iraq, the economy and homosexual rights. Don't get me
wrong, I suspect that, faced with a vote to legalize gay marriage,
many Trinity members would not vote for such a
change. However, for the majority of folks here this is not a
"front burner" issue. I believe that they think that the
President has missed more important issues. When asked about
homosexual relationships and even gay marriage, I believe most of
Trinity's members would say that this is an individual choice and
issue, something about which the government should not be too
concerned.
[6] That all said, I welcomed the chance to read and review this
first draft.
[7] I remember Phil Harris, the ELCA's attorney, sharing an old
joke that goes something like this - Question: "What do you
call 1000 dead lawyers on the ocean floor? Answer: A
good start." (You can replace "lawyers" with your favorite
group to dump on!)
[8] In all seriousness, this statement IS a good start. It
grounds our discussion of sexuality in the Scriptures and the
Lutheran Confessions. I really liked the introductory
statement that "This social statement addresses the
question: What does it mean for us as sexual creatures to love
our neighbors as ourselves and thus fulfill God's law of love in
this time and society?" (Draft, line 13-15) I believe the
draft addresses that question well. I also liked the early
admission that this statement, and I would add, any statement "does
not offer once-and-for-all answers for all contemporary
questions." Again, the draft lives up to that affirmation,
offering more questions than answers in true Lutheran form!
[9] I like what is said about Scripture - "Scripture cannot be
used in isolation as the norm for Christian life and the source of
knowledge for the exercise of moral judgment." (417-18)
This, of course, applies to much more than just
our conversations about sexuality. I also like the emphasis on
family and the attempt to redefine family in terms of the
21st century when families come in all shapes and
sizes.
[10] Living in a congregation where protection of our children
has been more than an item of casual discussion, I applaud the
draft's work on "Protecting children and youth in and for trusting
relationships." (1117) I have found this to be a very
important and potent issue in this congregation, as I suspect it is
in many others.
[11] The draft is very Lutheran when it takes a middle road, so
to speak, on the issues around homosexuality and the church. I
think its writers are correct to say that the ELCA "does not have
consensus regarding loving and committed same-gender
relationships." While I agree with this as a churchwide
statement, I do need to point out again that this is not an issue
in the congregation I serve. Here, it appears to me, people
are ready to affirm any "loving and committed
relationship." In this young congregation (average age is 35)
many folks are waiting for the ELCA to catch up to the
21st century reality of widespread acceptance of
homosexuality.
[12] Of course, I have a few concerns about the draft:
* It is too long, way too long.
* It reads like it was written by a theologian working with a
committee. It desperately needs an editor.
* Some of the language is more than awkward. For example,
the term "this church" is used throughout when I believe other
words like "the ELCA" would read more easily.
* I always ask the audience question and, I believe, that is a
fair question to ask about this draft: Who is the audience for
this statement? If it is to be congregation members for youth
and adult study, that should guide the use of language
throughout.
* I found the criticism of sexuality in the media a bit
much. Not that it is an incorrect criticism, but it is a
narrow one. It is easy to criticize the media, especially
television and film, about sexual content. But, our record
supporting programming and film that takes a different view is
spotty at best. There is a lot of inappropriate sexual content
in the media because people watch and read it! If we want
something different, we need to support programming that affirms
more appropriate content. I hope the next draft might reflect
a call to our members to support programming with a more positive
view of sexuality.
* While I certainly agree with the draft's statement "This
church does not favor or give approval to cohabitation outside of
marriage," I also need to share what was obvious in my first call
in 1976 and continues to be obvious today: Many, if not most,
of the couples who came to me in 1976 and come to me today for
marriage in the church were and are already living
together! That is a reality that, I believe, no ELCA statement
is going to change or even affect. My past congregation
experience tells me that this is not a new problem. I guess
what I am trying to say is that, for society, this has been a
non-issue for many years and we must face that reality.
[13] I hope these preliminary comments are helpful to the task
force in its continued discussion and subsequent drafts. Thank
you for the opportunity to share them.
[14] One additional comment: Many of my key younger members
and leaders are waiting for the ELCA to change its policies on
ordination to allow homosexual persons in committed relationships
to be on "this church's" roster. These folks were disappointed
that the 2007 ELCA churchwide assembly did not make this
change. They love the ELCA and our congregation, but they also
have waited a long time for this change. They are not
threatening to leave the ELCA over this issue, but I know that they
hope and pray for a change soon in these standards. I know
this was not part of this draft, but it is a related issue that
obviously continues to be before us. We anxiously await the
task force's supplementary recommendations on that issue that will
come to the 2009 ELCA churchwide assembly!
© April 2008
Journal of Lutheran Ethics (JLE)
Volume 8, Issue 4