[1] I got a beep. My beeper was running. I found out a doctor
wanted me to talk with a patient in the Labor and Delivery
Unit.
[2] I walked into the unit, read the chart, talk with the in-
charge nurse. Then I entered the room, accompanied by a Spanish
translator.
[3] A woman lying on her back looked at me with teary eyes.
[4] I call her name M. How are you doing? She was crying and
said, "I have a lot of pain." I am sorry, I reply. I am very sorry
for what happened. I look at this full term pregnant 38-year-old
woman in her seventh pregnancy. She has just found out that the
baby died in her womb.
[5] "I don't understand," she asks me. "I don't know why this
happened to me. I don't know why." I say, I am sorry. I really
don't know why. I wish I could give you the answer.
[6] My heart sinks. I know that you had a lot of expectation for
this baby. Do you know if this is a baby boy or a baby girl? Have
you given your baby a name?
[7] "Yes. It's a baby boy. We gave him the name Michael
Angel."
[8] I say wow! That is the archangel's name. You must have had a
lot of expectation for this baby. She responds with a sob. I am a
chaplain here on call tonight. I wonder, whenever you have your
baby delivered, would you like to have a baptism for your baby
Michael Angel. She says "yes, yes," between all the tears, while
her husband stands at the corner of the narrow and dark room.
[9] "I just want to stay with my baby. I just want to stay with
my baby." I wonder how she is going to handle this fetal demise
before delivery. I wonder how does this special one compare to her
6 other children at home. I think about how vulnerable her husband
is standing in the corner, helpless.
[10] When I walked out into the waiting area, I see a young
couple waiting to get into the Labor and Delivery unit. They told
me they are going to have a baby boy. This baby boy's name will
take after their uncle's name. That name for the baby will be the
name of a leader, a hero of this Arabic family.
[11] What is the difference between ethnic parents at this
point? I don't see any differences in expectation from a pregnant
mother for a child through naming it. At the same time, I see other
patients. They delivered their baby. After 30 days, they ship the
baby back to their homeland in China. The mother stays in the USA
to work to earn money. I don't understand how they can give up
their baby for such a long, long time. What is the ethic here? Is
it the money or the mother-child relationship? Which is more
important? Or, is this a basic survival skill in a foreign
land?
[12] This is New York and, this is my community. We have a lot
of people who look alike; a lot of people are marginalized in terms
of culture and ethnicity. But there is one similarity, we need to
be loved and to love is to extend this care to another. There is
uncertainty and adjustment for life to help accomplish the American
dream in a foreign land. I think it is the ministry of Jesus Christ
that is represented to us. Jesus Christ himself becomes the
foreigner of this land. He knows us. He contributed himself to walk
with our alienation to God's promise. Jesus embraces us, guides us,
and empowers us. He does things for us, even dying on the
cross.
[13] What does that mean to us today as a church and as a
Christian?
[14] May God help us to make faith in action be a part of
living. Amen.